We live in a time of great offense. We all seem to be offended by one another. In fact, it sometimes feels like many of us are eager to call out what we consider to be offensive behavior.
I feel strongly that silence in the face of blatantly bigotedm, destructive, or unconscious behavior enables that behavior. Silence is complicity. Some sort of action is needed.
But I worry that we sometimes misunderstand being offended as a noble, helpful endeavor. We don’t really need to be offended to do address and counter the behavior we find unhelpful. We don’t need to take it as a personal affront. We don’t need to be disgusted.
To me, the most noble (and difficult) endeavor is to find some way to challenge this behavior without taking it personally, without making it about us, and without passing judgment on others.